By Alexandra Bannon | Elite Daily ©
“At least once in our lives, we will all experience the essence of hurt, betrayal and pain.”
These emotions can come from all factors of life.
We can feel hurt when the flame we shared with someone we loved goes out; we can feel betrayed by a friend; we can feel pain when someone we love dies.
Nothing quite compares to trying to move on from something or someone who played a pivotal role in our lives.
Movies can portray it and people can talk about it, but when it comes down to the core, nothing can prepare you for what’s it like to get your heart broken.
Moving on from something that causes us immense heartache is one of the most painful experiences an individual can go through.
You can’t rush it and you can’t force it. It takes time.
It’s as simple as that.
In today’s society, there needs to be a permeative understanding that we are all human and we are all in progress.
In life, things change and you can change with it if you give yourself the opportunity to.
Before my 17th birthday, I lost both my parents to illnesses, which was out of my control.
Nothing will ever compare to having to face the fact the two people who gave me life were no longer going to be a part of it.
My parents’ deaths hurt like hell. I cried my eyes out, screamed my lungs out and grieved and grieved. But as time went on, I realized the world would still turn without the two people I loved like nothing else.
Now, don’t get me wrong when I say this; I do believe grieving takes time and the people who are hurt can take all the time they need to heal. But, I do believe there comes a point when moving on is necessary.
It’s okay if you change things from the way they left them, if you clean out their rooms or if you no longer wear their favorite pieces of jewelry.
It’s okay if you no longer think or talk about them as much, if only because it cuts you fresh again by doing so.
You will not be judged, nor will a fine be imposed if you do choose to move on and let go.
It doesn’t mean you will forget them; it simply means the pain and hurt will no longer control you.
Over time, you’ll find letting go of the unnecessary is essential for the necessity to breathe.
Losing loved ones is extremely hard, but living the rest of your life in the image you think they’d want you to be can be harder.
I know you loved the person you lost, and he or she loved you. But, a love like that wouldn’t want you to do this to yourself.
You need to know it’s okay to live and be happy again. Your time is limited, and you of all people should know that.
It’s okay to let go. I know letting go of people or traditions is hard because of how much time you invest in them.
Letting go can be scary, but it can also be liberating or even essential to your happiness.
Choosing to move on isn’t a decision that happens overnight, nor does it mean once you make the decision, you are set for life. Every day you have to decide to let go.
You will have to rise up every day and take the love you had for them and spread it around to everyone who is around you now.
It’s important to remind yourself that even though you lost one of the biggest loves of your life, the rest of your life won’t be sad.
Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful. Though that emptiness may be there for a while, you will start to create memories of your own over time. Life will feel as if it can be good again.
It’s been three years since I lost the two people who gave life to me, and it still surprises me that, although I had lost my entire world as I knew it, I gained a whole universe I never deemed possible.